Title: (Epub Download) NONVIOLENT-COMMUNICATION-A-LANGUAGE-OF- LIFE EBook by Marshall B. Rosenberg PhD, Author. Read Online Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life, 3rd Edition: Tools for Healthy Relationships (Nonviolent Communication Guides) epub. Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life, 3rd Edition: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Read online, or download in secure PDF or secure EPUB format.
|Language:||English, Spanish, Indonesian|
|Distribution:||Free* [*Registration needed]|
Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life, 3rd Edition: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships (Nonviolent Communication Guides) Marshall B. An enlightening look at how peaceful communication can create compassionate connections with family, friends, and other acquaintances, this book uses. Read "Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life, 3rd Edition Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships" by Marshall B. Rosenberg, PhD available.
Interpersonal relations. C45R67 This is one ofthe most useful books you will ever read. A Languageof Life, is essential reading for anyone who wants to improve theircommunication skills.
Applying the concepts within the book willhelp guide the reader towards a more loving, compassionate, andnonviolent way of understanding and functioning with others, andfoster more compassion in the world.
I highly recommend this book. It is precise,disciplined, and enormously compassionate. It shows us how to listen empathically and also communicate ourauthentic feelings and needs. Marshall Rosenberg has a genius fordeveloping and teaching practical skills urgently needed for a lessviolent, more caring world. Nonviolent Communication connectssoul to soul, creating a lot of healing.
It is the missing element in whatwe do. I cannot recommend ithighly enough. Youll learn simple tools todefuse arguments and create compassionate connections with yourfamily, friends, and other acquaintances. What happens to disconnect usfrom our compassion, leading us to behave violently and exploitively?
Rosenberg makes some challenging points: His distinctionbetween punitive and protective force—and how to discern when forceis necessary—should be required reading for anyone making foreignpolicy or policing our streets.
Demanding the ultimate form ofresponsibility—and vulnerability—its no wonder that Rosenberg hasreceived little media and mass attention.
Well-written and laid out thisbook is accessible and easy to read. Nationally, we talkpeace. This book goes far beyond mere talk. He hascompiled his ideas into an easy-to-read book that clearly explains thiscommunication model. If you want to learn ways of more skillfulspeech, I highly recommend this book. Marshall Rosenberg offers aradical challenge to centuries of thought and language that createviolence.
If enough people actually learn Nonviolent Communication wemay soon live in a more peaceful and compassionate world. Both my work associates and Iwere unhappy. My life is significantly changed due to practicingNonviolent Communication. I am more settled and relaxed even whenI am busy. I no longer feel the need to discover fault or place blame. Everyone is happy to be working with me for the first time in my 33years of owning and operating my own businesses.
NonviolentCommunication is a very large step toward that goal. Marshall has shown a way tonot only live, speak and act nonviolently, but a way to do so withoutsacrificing or compromising yourself or others.
If angels do manifestin physical form here on this earth, then Marshall Rosenberg mustbe one. Thisprocess has impacted every area of my life and continues to unfold. For me, it unifies the spiritual truths Ive found in all the worldsreligions. It facilitates and strengthens connections to others and itstruths are experientially testable. Nonviolent Communication allowed me to overcome my toxicconditioning and find the loving parent and person that was lockedinside.
Rosenberg has created a way to transform the violence inthe world. This book practiceswhat it preaches, and I found the step-by-step approach, exercises,and examples to be clear and easy to practice. I have never read a clearer, more straightforward, insightful book oncommunication. After studying and teaching assertiveness since the70s, this book is a breath of fresh air.
Rosenberg adds the brilliantinsight into the linkage of feelings and needs and taking responsibilityand creates a true tool. Amazingly easy to read, great examples, andchallenging to put into practice—this book is a true gift to all of us. It will teach you how to recognize anger before itbecomes violence, and how to understand, deal with, and take controlof the rage you may feel.
Parents remark that they feel heard. Solutions come moreeasily and naturally. Conflicts and misunderstandings with colleaguesnow become opportunities to create deeper connections. Anger,depression, shame and guilt become friends that help me wake tosome vital need that is not being met. Read the book! I have taught the method to many parents whohave reported having gained a deeper understanding of their children,thus enhancing their relationship and decreasing tension and conflict. Observation or Evaluation?
Bring Back the Stigma of Illegitimacy! The results of this research played a key rolein the evolution of the process of communication that I will bedescribing in this book. I will be forever grateful that Professor Michael Hakeem helpedme to see the scientific limitations and the social and politicaldangers of practicing psychology in the way that I had beentrained: Seeingthe limitations of this model stimulated me to search for ways ofpracticing a different psychology, one based on a growing clarityabout how we human beings were meant to live.
Finally, I would like to express gratitude to my friend AnnieMuller. Her encouragement to be clearer about the spiritualfoundation of my work has strengthened that work and enrichedmy life. Especially not ifyou were brutally reminded of your skin color every moment ofevery day. And then to be beaten up at the age of 10 by whiteyouths because they consider you too black and then by blackyouths because they consider you too white is a humiliatingexperience that would drive anyone to vengeful violence.
I was so outraged that my parents decided to take me to Indiaand leave me for some time with grandfather, the legendry M. Gandhi, so that I could learn from him how to deal with the anger,the frustration, the discrimination and the humiliation that violentcolor prejudice can evoke in you. In the 18 months I learned morethan I anticipated. My only regret now is that I was just 13 yearsold and a mediocre student at that.
If only I was older, a bit wiserand a bit more thoughtful I could have learned so much more. But,one must be happy with what one has received and not be greedy,a fundamental lesson in nonviolent living.
How can I forget this? To bring this home to me grandfather made me draw a familytree of violence using the same principles as we do a genealogicaltree. His argument was that I would have a better appreciation ofnonviolence if I understood and acknowledged the violence thatexists in the world. He then explained that passiveviolence ultimately generated anger in the victim who, as anindividual or as a member of a collective, responded violently.
Inother words it is passive violence that fuels the fire of physicalviolence. Grandfather always vociferously stressed the need fornonviolence in communications—something that Marshall Rosenberghas been doing admirably for several years through his writings andhis seminars. I read with considerable interest Mr.
We areall, unfortunately, waiting for the other person to change first. Nonviolence is not a strategy that can be used today anddiscarded tomorrow; nonviolence is not something that makesyou meek or a pushover; nonviolence is about inculcating positiveattitudes to replace the negative attitudes that dominate us.
More so in an overwhelmingly materialistic society thatthrives on rugged individualism. None of these negative conceptsare conducive to building a homogenous family, community,society or a nation.
Nonviolence means allowing the positive within you to emerge. Be dominated by love, respect, understanding, appreciation,compassion and concern for others rather than the self-centeredand selfish, greedy, hateful, prejudiced, suspicious and aggressiveattitudes that dominate our thinking.
We often hear people say: Thisworld is ruthless and if you want to survive you must becomeruthless too. I humbly disagree with this contention. This world is what we have made of it. If it is ruthless today it isbecause we have made it ruthless by our attitudes. If we changeourselves we can change the world and changing ourselves beginswith changing our language and methods of communication. Ihighly recommend reading this book, and applying the NonviolentCommunication process it teaches.
It is a significant first steptowards changing our communication and creating a compassionateworld. When I speak and when I hear,Let the love light shine through me. What happens to disconnect us fromour compassionate nature, leading us to behave violently andexploitatively? And conversely, what allows some people to stayconnected to their compassionate nature under even the mosttrying circumstances?
My preoccupation with these questions began in childhood,around the summer of , when our family moved to Detroit,Michigan. The second week after we arrived, a race war eruptedover an incident at a public park. More than forty people werekilled in the next few days. Our neighborhood was situated in thecenter of the violence, and we spent three days locked in the house. When the race riot ended and school began, I discovered thata name could be as dangerous as any skin color. After school, the two were waiting for me: Since that summer in , I have been examining the twoquestions I mentioned.
What empowers us, for example, to stayconnected to our compassionate nature even under the worstcircumstances? I am thinking of people like Etty Hillesum, whoremained compassionate even while subjected to the grotesqueconditions of a German concentration camp. Not because I am brave but I because I know that I am dealing with human beings, and that I must try as hard as I can to understand everything that anyone ever does.
And that was the real import of this morning: I should have liked to start treating him there and then, for I know that pitiful young men like that are dangerous as soon as they are let loose on mankind. A Diary. While studying the factors that affect our ability to staycompassionate, I was struck by the crucial role of language andour use of words. I call this approachNonviolent Communication, using the term nonviolence as Gandhiused it—to refer to our natural state of compassion when violencehas subsided from the heart.
A Way To Focus AttentionNVC is founded on language and communication skills thatstrengthen our ability to remain human, even under tryingconditions. It contains nothing new; all that has been integratedinto NVC has been known for centuries. The intent is to remind usabout what we already know—about how we humans were meantto relate to one another—and to assist us in living in a way thatconcretely manifests this knowledge.
NVC guides us in reframing how we express ourselves and hearothers.
Instead of being habitual, automatic reactions, our wordsbecome conscious responses based firmly on an awareness of whatwe are perceiving, feeling, and wanting. We are led to expressourselves with honesty and clarity, while simultaneously payingothers a respectful and empathic attention.
In any exchange, wecome to hear our own deeper needs and those of others. NVC trainsus to observe carefully, and to be able to specify behaviors andconditions that are affecting us. We learn to identify and clearlyarticulate what we are concretely wanting in a given situation.
Theform is simple, yet powerfully transformative. As NVC replaces our old patterns of defending, withdrawing, orattacking in the face of judgment and criticism, we come to perceiveourselves and others, as well as ourintentions and relationships, in a new We perceive relationships inlight.
Resistance, defensiveness, and a new light when we useviolent reactions are minimized. When NVC to hear our own deeperwe focus on clarifying what is being needs and those of others. Through its emphasis on deep listening—to ourselves as well as others—NVC fosters respect, attentiveness, and empathy, and engenders a mutual desire to give from the heart.
On a deeper level, it is an ongoing reminder to keep our attention focused on a place where we are more likely to get what we are seeking. There is a story of a man under a street lamp searching for something on all fours.
A policeman passing by asked what he was doing. What I want inwhere we can hope to find my life is compassion, a flow betweenwhat we are seeking. To receive with grace may be the greatest giving. When you give to me, I give you my receiving. When you take from me, I feel so given to. This kindof giving benefits both the giver and the receiver.
The receiverenjoys the gift without worrying about the consequences thataccompany gifts given out of fear, guilt, shame, or desire for gain. The use of NVC does not require that the persons with whomwe are communicating be literate in NVC or even motivated torelate to us compassionately. If we stay with the principles of NVC,motivated solely to give and receive compassionately, and doeverything we can to let others know this is our only motive, theywill join us in the process and eventually we will be able torespond compassionately to one another.
The NVC Process To arrive at a mutual desire to give from the heart, we focus the light of consciousness on four areas—referred to as the four components of the NVC model. First, we observe what is actually happening in a situation: The trick is to be able to articulate this observation without introducing any judgment orFour components of NVC: And thirdly, we say what needs of ours are connected to the feelings we have identified.
An awareness of these three components is present when we use NVC to clearly and honestly express how we are. Thus, part of NVC is to express these four pieces of information very clearly, whether verbally or by other means. The other aspect of this communication consists of receiving the same four pieces of information from others. As we keep our attention focused on the areas mentioned, andhelp others do likewise, we establish a flow of communication,back and forth, until compassion manifests naturally: NVC Process The concrete actions we are observing that are affecting our well-being How we feel in relation to what we are observing The needs, values, desires, etc.
Although we will learn to listen forand verbally express each of thesecomponents in Chapters 3—6, it is Two parts of NVC: While I 2. The essence of NVC is to be found in our consciousness ofthese four components, not in the actual words that are exchanged. It is therefore an approach that can be effectively appliedat all levels of communication and in diverse situations: I discovered a very hurting man to whom I had been married for 28 years. He had asked me for a divorce the weekend before the [NVC] workshop.
To make a long story short, we are here today—together, and I appreciate the contribution [it has] made to our happy ending.
He is not here to make me happy, nor am I here to create happiness for him. Ateacher writes: It can work even with children who have language delays, learning difficulties, and behavior problems.
One student in our classroom spits, swears, screams, and stabs other students with pencils when they get near his desk. Use your giraffe talk. I feel angry when you stand so close to me. I forgot it bothers you. I realized how much time I had put into lesson planning and how my need for creativity and contribution were being short- circuited in order to manage behavior.
Also, I felt I was not meeting the educational needs of the other students. I Some patients ask me whether I am a psychologist, saying that usually their doctors are not interested in the way they live their lives or deal with their diseases. Recently a woman with AIDS, whom I have been treating for the past five years, told me that what has helped her the most have been my attempts to find ways for her to enjoy her daily life.
My use of NVC helps me a lot in this respect. Often in the past, when I knew that a patient had a fatal disease, I myself would get caught in the prognosis, and it was hard for me to sincerely encourage them to live their lives.
With NVC, I have developed a new consciousness as well as a new language. I am amazed to see how much it fits in with my medical practice. I feel more energy and joy in my work as I become increasingly engaged in the dance of NVC. A French cabinetmember visiting her sister remarked how differently the sister andher husband were communicating and responding to each other. Thoughtime was limited, we dispatched a French-speaking trainer toParis to work with the cabinet minister.
In Jerusalem, during a workshop attended by Israelis of varyingpolitical persuasions, participants used NVC to express themselvesregarding the highly contested issue of the West Bank.
Many of theIsraeli settlers who have established themselves on the West Bankbelieve that they are fulfilling a religious mandate by doing so, andthey are locked in conflict not only with Palestinians but also withother Israelis who recognize the Palestinian hope for nationalsovereignty in this region.
After twenty minutes, a settler announced her willingness toconsider relinquishing her land claims and moving out of the WestBank into internationally recognized Israeli territory if her politicalopponents were able to listen to her in the way she had just beenlistened to.
Worldwide, NVC now serves as a valuable resource forcommunities facing violent conflicts and severe ethnic, religious,or political tensions. The spread of NVC training and its use inmediation by people in conflict in Israel, the Palestinian Authority,Nigeria, Rwanda, Sierra Leone, and elsewhere have been a sourceof particular gratification for me.
My associates and I were once inBelgrade over three highly charged days training citizens workingfor peace. As the trainingprogressed, we heard the ring of laughter in their voices as theyshared their profound gratitude and joy for having found theempowerment they were seeking. Over the next two weeks, duringtrainings in Croatia, Israel, and Palestine, we again saw desperatecitizens in war-torn countries regaining their spirits andconfidence from the NVC training they received. Now, with this book, I am pleased and excited to be able toshare the richness of Nonviolent Communication with you.
SummaryNVC helps us connect with each other and ourselves in a way thatallows our natural compassion to flourish. It guides us to reframethe way we express ourselves and listen to others by focusing ourconsciousness on four areas: NVCfosters deep listening, respect, and empathy and engenders amutual desire to give from the heart. Some people use NVC torespond compassionately to themselves, some to create greaterdepth in their personal relationships, and still others to buildeffective relationships at work or in the political arena.
Worldwide,NVC is used to mediate disputes and conflicts at all levels. These dialogues intend to impart the flavor of an actual exchange where a speaker is applying the principles of Nonviolent Communication. However, NVC is not simply a language or a set of techniques for using words; the consciousness and intent that it embraces may be expressed through silence, a quality of presence, as well as through facial expressions and body language.
The NVC in Action dialogues you will be reading are necessarily distilled and abridged versions of real-life exchanges, where moments of silent empathy, stories, humor, gestures, etc. Attitudes toward Americans at that time were not favorable. As I was speaking, I suddenly noticed a wave of muffled commotion fluttering through the audience.
In this case, I had some cues. On the way into the refugee camp, I had seen several empty tear gas canisters that had been shot into the camp the night before. I addressed the man who had called me a murderer: Are you angry because you would like my government to use its resources differently? You think we need tear gas? We need sewers, not your tear gas! Nonviolent Communication: Rosenberg , Foreword by Deepak Chopra. Book Type: Nonviolent Communication is the integration of four things: It is the missing element in what we do.
Rosenberghas brought the simplicity of successful communication into the foreground. No matter what issue you're facing, his strategies for communicating with others will set you up to win every time. I highly recommend this book. Why are they excited or frustrated by something that is happening, whether it's about computing or beyond computing? Nadella gave him a close and honest look at both himself and Microsoft, and the result is a fun must-read.
If empathy as a measure of emotional IQ is a predictor of success, then Nadella hit the nail on the head by inculcating the corporate giant with the trait from top to bottom.
Why else is empathy important? Microsoft is both a services and a product company, and its offerings have to resonate with users. Nadella states: